It’s so funny… Often when I’m talking to other mums about health, fitness and generally looking after ourselves and our families, I get this question – “But how do regular mums like us look after ourselves?”.
Don’t get me wrong, I feel totally flattered if anyone should happen to think I have some sort of super powers, but the truth is, if you were a fly on the wall in my house, you’d know the real story.
Let me give you a glimpse into a couple of days in my life to show you just how “regular” I really am…
We recently held a media event which was a pretty big deal for Becky and I, so we had to put a lot of time and effort into it. That’s pretty normal, fitting work into your life as a mummy. The week leading up to the event I had to really plan – meals for the week for the family (particularly as I was going to stay in the city the night prior to the event), make sure the washing was up-to-date, ensure the family calendar had all of our commitments listed on there so everyone (ie my husband) knew who was doing what and when, and help Maui complete his homework tasks. On top of that I’d fit in my workouts (mostly late at night before bed), organised everything I needed to for the event, ironed my clothes, packed my bag and I was ready to go!!
Now… If I had super powers, everything would have unfolded exactly the way I’d planned. But just like other mums, my life is “regular” and things don’t always go according to my plan.
So here’s what actually happened… Just like most people, I try to utilise every single minute of the day. So the day prior to the media event I decided to just squeeze in another commitment before heading into the city. I took my my mum and my Aunties to the movies and lunch, raced home, picked up Maui from school, grabbed my overnight bag and bits and pieces, set-off to meet Becky and we were off. When we arrived in town, we finished putting the goodie bags together then before you knew it, it was nearly 8pm. I thought I’d ring my family to say a quick goodnight to all my boys… But there was no answer. Maybe they were all in bed. I tried once more – still no answer. Ok so they’ve had an early night… Or so I thought.
At around 9.15pm, my husband called – sounded like he was in a panic – and said “Don’t worry, everyone is safe and ok”. You know what that means, right? Everything is NOT ok. My husband proceeded to tell me that he’d had an emergency at work and hadn’t picked the twins up on time from daycare. I was relieved and said “That’s fine. What time did you pick them up?”. And here’s the kicker… “Well…” he said, “I’m just on my way to get them now”. I laughed, thinking that was a joke, but the silence on the other end told me otherwise. It was after 10pm by the time they got home from daycare!! (Luckily they go to family daycare – and we really are like part of the family… But for children that are normally picked up by 5pm at the latest, it was a little upsetting – for them and me!)
Ok, so what do you do when you hear something like this and you know there is absolutely nothing you can do about it?! Firstly, I had to remind myself that sometimes there are things that are just out of our control and everyone is doing their best to get things done. Next, I just reminded myself that everyone was safe and there was absolutely nothing I could do about it from where I was sitting. (I did also remember that I wasn’t going to have to deal with the ratty overtired children in the morning 🙂 ). I spoke to the boys at 10.30pm and everyone was ok – a little sad I wasn’t there, but ok. (Enter the feeling of guilt and all those mixed emotions we have as a mum – note to self… Remind myself that everything I am doing is to have a better work life balance with my family).
Needless to say, I didn’t sleep well that night and then of course I had to get up very early the following morning for our breakfast event. Like many of you mums, when you’re under pressure and overtired, we somehow find a reserve from somewhere to help us do what we need to do – just get ‘er done! And that’s what happened! We had an amazing time at the event and were inspired talking to so many amazing women from all walks of life. All the craziness was worth it.
Then it was home again to my boys and back to my “other job”.
I totally love my family, love my life and love all the opportunities that surround us. Sometimes life is crazy and I don’t have all the answers no matter how much planning and how prepared I think I am. As a regular mum, I just do my best at trying to fit everything in, including a little time for me 🙂
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